Disingenuous
Adjective
dishonest and insincere
One great thing about Facebook is that is can be used as a measure as to where you as a person might "rate" with others. I have greatly enjoyed the social networking that it offers. I have found many old friends and family and reconnected with them in a very comfortable manner.
I think many of us come to realize, however, who our *real* friends and family are or are not! "Friending" someone has become an indicator of whether someone really values their realationship with you or not. That part is also good. You can discover where you stand with someone (as long as they are honest). I have had very few people not return a friend request from me. As a matter of fact, I have only four. One is a fellow teacher, two are nieces and one is a very old friend of the family. The teacher I get. No surprise really but I thought I would make the effort showing I am the better person. The nieces who knows? It is a good thing I have many nieces I guess. The old friend of the family is-disappointing. I really can't say I am surprised. I have always suspected that these friends of the family many not be completely honest. That frustrates me because I feel I am very honest and I expect the same in return. I am honest to the point of sometimes being rude but let me tell you, you will always know where you stand with me. I don't play games and I don't wait around for people either. I am confused as well because why do you befriend people you really don't like? I can only find one answer. To use them. I hate to think this but I don't know what else to think. You don't want contact with me anymore, you got it. It is sad though. I hate to think that there is someone else out there as disingenuous as my ex but there it is. It takes all kinds. I think it is OK to be used. There was a time when I would have ranted and raved and sworn damnation and hellfire, etc... After all, no one makes a fool out of *me*. The truth is, I just can't care. I would much rather be giving and kind and continue to make new friends because experience has shown that the flakes are the exception, not the rule. I *know* who I am. Do you? Posted by Michelle at August 5, 2009 10:18 PM